Self-care is critical for every person to incorporate into their lives, especially moms. In order to give the most of yourself, you have to pour from a full cup because if you aren't and your cup is empty, well, you become a Sanderson Sister (which in all honestly, I love those ladies so it wouldn't be horrible) but you can't pour from an empty cup and the only way to fill it is with some self-care. Or is it.....is there another component that we don't hear of often? What about self-love?

A year unlike any other. A year in which we found ourselves with more time on our hands than we are use to. There were moments, lots of moments, when we drove each other up the wall. We had to find something productive to do together and I needed to continue to teach Bee is a fun way, that's when Unicorn and Cat Co. was born.

Focusing on oneself is hard for a lot of people. It tends to make them uncomfortable, they don't want to face their weaknesses but in order to create a healthy livable future, you have to be open to self improvement. No matter what background you came from, what traumatic events you experience that were by no means your fault, you still have to be open to improve. If you want to grow and evolve into an even more magical being, it starts with self-improvement. 

Preface: We are all okay, crisis was averted. 

Anxiety often brings many worries, fears and heart palpitations. Sometimes anxiety can bring logical fears (car accidents, fires, people dying etc) and other times they can seem unlogical to a non-anxious mind (cats, planes, thunderstorms etc). Sometimes either fears can bring intense anxiety causing an individual to be more "careful" with certain things in life. I say "careful" with quotations because non-anxious people criticize those fears and often make fun of them stating people are crazy or too cautious. The thing with anxiety is, thats how we live. We do tend to be more cautious, for me personally I do tend to be more cautious but I've also been on the backend of tragedy, more than once. I know life is not all lollipops and gumdrops, it can be mountains of shit. One of my biggest fears (besides Bee dying) is my house burning down. This week it almost happened. 

Boundaries: : something that indicates or fixes a limit or extent. Something, we as a society struggle to create for ourselves. Many people will often wear themselves thin or accept certain behaviours because they are unaware of how to set boundaries or don't feel they have the strength to stick to them. Boundaries are incredibly important, healthy and normal to set in your life. Boundaries apply to all areas of your life,  work, family, friends, partners etc. Boundaries will give you freedom, they will lighten your load, they will allow you to see your value and worth and what you are willing to accept. Boundaries do not make you stuck up, hard to live with, ridiculous, cold, rude, mean etc. You deserve to have a magical life and boundaries will help you get there, but how or where do you begin? 

Numbness, disassociation, out of body experience, not feeling alive, anyone feeling these right now? It's okay if you are, it's such a natural way to deal with trauma and grief. What the world is experiencing is a form of trauma and grief and sometimes when that happens, it feels like we are living but almost like we are standing by watching someone else live our lives void of all emotions. It's a state I've been in many times over the last 10 years and one I know well.